Kinesiology is an alternate stress-releasing method combining the scientific approach of Western medicine (chiropratice) and the ancient wisdom of the Traditional Chinese Medicine in order to harmonize our energy system thus helping the body to boost its own healing capacity.
How is kinesiology different from coaching?
The role and importance of the muscle test
The most important tool of life coaching is asking powerful questions. A great coach will ask you questions that will help you to discover what the solution is and how to realize it in your own life.
Coaching takes place first and foremost on the mental and on the emotional level, although to some extent, body sensations can also play an important role in discovering yourself and in becoming more conscious.
The most important tool of kinesiology is the muscle test. It can be viewed as a special type of question, to which the answer comes not from the mind, but from that information base stored in the cells of our bodies.
Muscle test is based on a feedback mechanism of the body. Biochemical and hormonal changes of the body provoked by negative emotional stress will also have an effect on the tonicity of the muscles.
A muscle holding strong can go weaker under the effect of stress, while its antagonist muscle pair will go into extra tenstion. Compared to the no stress state of being, the tonacity of the muscle will change under stress. This change of tonacity can be felt and expeirenced in the muscle test.
How? If you hold out your arm streight on the side of your body, you will feel some of your muscles working to help you to maintain this position, but no extra effort is necessary for you to do it.
I put a slight pressure on your held out arm (equivalent to about 800 gramms of weight). If you are being in a quiet state of mind, or if you recall a pleasant memory, despite the extra pressure I put on your arm, you will not need to excercise any extra force in order to hold it there.
If, however, we repeat this experiment while you are worrying about something or you recall an unpleasant memory, something would change: you would need to invest extra effort to hold your arm where it was, because otherwise you could simply not maintain the position. If you don’t practice extra effort, your arm will go down during the light pressure.
What is important is that both parties put out the same amount of force: you hold your arms steadily, I push it with the same pressure. This way, change in the tonacity can easily be felt by both parties.
So what if I work with a person ten times stronger than me? Does it still work? Or do I have to increase the intensitiy of the pressure?
It might sound surprsing, but muscle test works just the same way, no matter how strong or weak the tested person might be. Our point of reference is not the strenghts or the size of the muscles that we test. No matter how big and strong muscles a person might have, those muscles will react the exact same way as the muscles of a child: the tonacity changes.
So why is that interesting?
Why is it useful to know that by thinking of an unpleasant memory, we’ll feel worse? We know that anyway, why would we need someone pushing our arms in order to figure it out?
We know for a fact that our conscious mind can only access a few percentage of the vast information stored in the brain and in the nervous system.
This is the top of the iceberg. The inaccessible 97% in turn, rules our conscious behaviour, defines our choices, our attitudes and our decisions.
When we experience a problem in the present moment, it is often related – mostly unconsciously – to a past event, trauma or memory. The negative emotion associated to a past event will become activated in the present as long as we don’t “unscrumble the eggs”, ie. as long as we don’t disconnect the unpleasent emotion from the original triggering event. This is the reason why we cannot solve it simply by applying our willpower.
By applying the muscle test, we can find the root cause of the present issue and thus we can dig deeper compared to when we are only looking for a solution on the conscious mental level.
When using the muscle test, what we are looking for is where the body’s stress reaction gets activated, ie. When your muscle changes its tonacity. Once we know where the energy is blocked because of the emotional stress, then we know where to focus our stress-releasing tools.
It is very similar to cleaning: as long as we don’t know where the dust is hiding, we don’t know where to start mopping up.
Another great thing about muscle test is that it can provide full discretion: you can choose not to talk about painful past events because your body will give us the relevant signals even is you recall that situation in your mind.
Most importantly, however, you will discover how certain events, behaviors are connected, and what’s the secret logic behind some of your reactions and emotions.
With the help of kinesiology tools, we can release these hidden blocks holding you back or burdening you in any way in your daily life.
It is like instead of getting temporary rid of the unwanted weed in the garden by using lawn moaner (which would only make the weed grow stronger every time), you finally decide to disroot it once and for all. It won’t be able to grow again.
What’s even more, you can choose to plant something you like to its place.
Releasing stress – a catalyst of change
Throughout our lives, we mostly learned that if we want to change something in our lives, the secret of success is willpower. We have to put all our effort into something, and we have to go against what we want to change.
We were taught that the only way to change unwanted patterns is to fight against it and use our strength until we succeed. This is the myth of the willpower.
Let us take a closer look on how we change. In the human body, information is constantly flowing within the nervous system. The messengers will report our state of being to the brain moment-by-moment, where , in turn, reactions will be generated. The brain will give instructions on how our bodies should react, what biochemical changes should occur. So there is an inner communication system, which guarantees that the body is always adapting to our emotional and mental state of being.
Stress is a perfectly normal reaction of the body. It is important to know that stress-provoking factors might seem to be perfectly identical from the point of view of a third person, but the same events might lead to completely different reactions in different people. There is no such thing as “objective stress”.
Someone might startle from a loud noise, someone might cry out, and to others, the same noise might go completely unnoticed. Someone might get hurt by one sentence so bad, they cannot get over it for days, while others might simply not care.
Why is it so? The answer lies in our past. There is always a logical reason behind the seemingly random variations of reactions, fitting perfectly into the broader picture of the person’s past experiences.
Past experiences – whether conscious or unconscious – are stored in the brain, in our memory. If we lived something with positive emotions, then later on, anything that recalls or resembles – even just a bit – to this positive picture, will also reactivate the pleasant emotions attached to the first similar event.
If, on the other hadn, we have a negative experience, to which we naturally attach negative emotions, later on, anything – even slightly – reminding us – even without becoming aware of the connection – to the past situation, will reactivet the negative emotions as well. Of course, not necessarly with the same intensity, as in the original moment.
This means that your body does not only react to stress in the original moment of experiencing it.
Let me illustrate it with a simple example. While you are enjoying the view of a beautiful garden, a dog attacks you. Since your brain is wired to protect you from danger, in order to ensure that such threatening situation cannot be repeated, it will store all details of the painful event.
Imagine it as your brain would arrange everything into a filing system and would label them either safe or dangerous. The dog attack goes in the “dangerous” file.
It will not only remember that a dog attack is dangerous, but it will also store all the details related to the situation as a whole: flowers, colors, that calm, relaxed state of being in which you did not notice the dog getting too close to you.
Our brain will connect these details with the notion of danger so that next time it percieves any of it, it can alert you just in time.
As a result, even many years later, your brain will still consider wondering at a flower garden as a possible threat to your security. It might seem to be irrational because you are aware taht there aren’t dangerous dogs in each and every garden – in fact, in most of them there are none, but you cannot change the filing because it is stored in a subconscious level and you cannot change it.
This is an example where we can still easily convince ourselves about being safe. In most cases, however, we store a stressful event with its collateral negative emotions and we cannot separate them consciously.
Often, it is not the situation itself that is dangerous. Our reactions are, however, mirror a real threat. What we keep on carrying in ourselves is not the past experience alone, it is its emotional imprint, our emotional reactions. This imprint can later block us in our desire to change something in our lives.
If we understand that the main drive of our actions lie way under the surface of our consicousness, then we can also understand why the willpower – that can only be activated consciously – is simply not the best tool to rewrite subconscious patterns.
If we fail in changing something, and we start to beat ourselves up for not being able to deal with the situation, we might also experience shame and guilt that adds to the already burdening emotional mix, and won’t help changing either.
Instead, it might be a good idea to change our attitude.
If we accept that the role of our subconscious mind is so important, then we have to ask ourselves the question: How can we get access to it? Since it is SUBconscious, we cannot access it in our normal waken state of being. There are methods that link change and meditative mindset through which we can access the underlieing programs or our subconscious mind.